“Reflecting on My Birth Mother Who Abandoned Me”

My birth mother either couldn’t care for me or didn’t want to, and so she abandoned me to strangers. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I faced that past. After acknowledging such a past, is it possible to believe in unconditional love? Can I trust the sincerity of someone who says they love me? I tried not to create reasons to be rejected again by my parents or by French society.

Yes, indeed.

Just like pets that are repeatedly adopted and abandoned, they become overly obedient, fearing that they might be abandoned again. They know the pain of being discarded too well. The words of someone who, having been abandoned by their biological parents, tries not to create reasons to be rejected again in a foreign country, hit home deeply. There may have been circumstances, but the primal wound of being rejected once might have led to rejecting love itself.